And I thought I was bad.

Leiah moved into a new place a few weeks ago, so last week I spent a few days at her house watching Ben and helping her get settled. We went through clothes, found a roomful of wedding and baby stuff that could be donated or given away, and then had to tackle her keepsakes.

I have a soft spot for keepsakes. A soft spot that's about two trunks tall by two trunks wide plus an under the bed box full of photos. Mack loves my soft spot.

While I'm good at being practical about things like how many pieces of Gladware you really need, I'm terrible at purging keepsakes. Every time I open my own collection to eliminate things, it's like I get to go back in time, see who I was then, laugh at how ridiculous she was, and then come back to who I am today feeling very grateful and more like I have accomplished something with my life. Something like not being 17 anymore.

Helping Leiah was tough. She has the funniest notes that she passed during class and a love letter from a boy who was so sweet and so helpless in his feelings for her. She has fake wedding programs that she and her friend made for their future alter-ego selves. She has baby photos of a boy I love so much I'll probably keep his baby picture framed and on my windowsill even when he's 75. Those things made it hard to say no.

But there were other things.

When we were kids we had this awful wool blanket that was kept on the couch for us to cover up with if we got cold. This thing was brown and as scratchy as a beard, and it became known as Itchy Scratchy to us girls. Leiah decided she was going to love this blanket and claimed it as her own. Fast forward 22 years when she pulls Itchy Scratchy out of a bag, tattered and torn, aging worse than a smoking woman.

When I asked Leiah why she ever liked that obnoxious blanket she looked at me and said, "Because Amber. It's what I do. I liked Itchy Scratchy and I liked LJ. I don't know why."

We also came across her old orthodontics. When I say orthodontics, I don't mean retainers. I kept my retainers for a few years after I stopped wearing them, but mainly because I knew how much my parents had paid for those things and I felt awful pitching them. I guess Leiah had similar issues because we not only found her retainer but also her rusty headgear and her braces. Yes, her actual braces.


I'm I ever glad my packrattiness was tempered by a tiny apartment and a cross country move.

Twinkle twinkle little star, how I wonder how you turned my niece into Ozzy Osbourne.

This is an angel at Christmas, just 4 short months ago.

And this is how age makes us rotten.

I almost killed my nephew.

pancake breakfast at Denny's. a side trip to the mall. running through Dick's and hiding in the tents. watching the kids play in the playground. chasing each other and playing I'm gonna get your butt. laughter. joy. the casual stay by me in the parking lot warning. a repeat of the same warning. the turn to open his door. the realization that he's off and running. the looming SUV cruising out of its spot. the carnal shriek that squeals his name in such a way he whips around terrified and runs back. the welling up of tears. the hyperventilating of both of us in the back seat. his cries for mommy. my cries for how sad and scared he is. my mind wanders to horribly dark places called what if and I beg it to stop. the thought keeps creeping in and I try to kill it with gratitude. my singsong voice of happiness trying to undo the trauma. his silence the whole way home. the apology so heartfelt a piece of me died when I heard it. the sorry exchange, him for almost getting smashed by the car, mine for screaming at him and scaring him to his core. the delicate recount offered to his mother when we pick her up from work. her reply that sometimes trauma is a good thing. and that you can never take your eyes off of them, not even for a second.

I think this is what they call a life lesson, for both of us.

I think Jesus is the Easter Bunny. And Santa Claus.

What do you get when your parents buy a minivan, your older sister comes home from England, your baby sister gets a lizard, your little sister needs to sleep and (almost) everyone's birthday happens in the spring?

An Easter weekend at Mountain Laurel Lake.

My parents booked a cabin on this bigger-than-a-pond-but-not-quite-a-lake patch of water a while ago, hoping that everyone would be able to come together and spend some QT together. Little did they know that more of us than they expected would be living under their roof, ODing on QT daily.

About 22 seconds after we arrived, Charles started fishing off the deck. And he didn't stop fishing until Sunday afternoon when the car was all loaded up and we were about to drive off. To his credit, he caught the first fish and the last fish of the weekend and increased his manliness by 86%.



Since we ladies don't like worms and cigars, we spent our time doing more ladylike things like playing cards and cooking delicious black bean burgers (Kristin's recipe) and birthday cake. My mom brought an egg dying kit so the mommies of us put on their patience hats and helped toddlers enjoy brightly colored vinegar with epic stain potential.

On the first night, we realized there was no way the babies were going to be able to sleep in the same room. Mainly because Renee kept popping up in her bed and saying, "Hi-lo" to Ben and Leiah while they were trying to sleep. So my mom and dad, you know, the people who PAID for and ARRANGED the trip, relocated from a bedroom to the loft. Betsy and I were also in the loft. On the pullout bed. Next to the prison toilet.

The prison toilet was actually a highlight of the weekend because it was the reason I laughed so hard I drooled. See, they'd put a toilet upstairs, but it was only hidden by a little screen panel so everyone could see and hear everything you might do in a bathroom. Like in prison. My mom was absolutely hilarious acting out a late night trip to the prison toilet, and I was doubled over in laughter and pain from laughter.

Another highlight was Boggle. Which is basically a game that I can add to my list of games no one can beat me at. During one round I actually came up with agile AND genius, and if you want to know how impressive that is, go get Boggle and take it on your family's Easter weekend trip.

I also recommend taking babies on your trip. Babies are freaking hilarious. Renee took her first boat ride with Dude and loved it so much that every time he'd circle in to drop her off, she'd look at me and her dad on the dock and say to Dude, "Let's go, let's go."
And Ben wasn't about to be out-funnied by Renee. After he'd made the goodnight hug-kiss rounds once, Dude asked him for an extra kiss. Well, that baby was exhausted and just couldn't summon the energy to walk over to Dude to deliver. Instead he stood on the other side of the room and blew a kiss AND a hug. And now we have a new family tradition.

During the day we took lots of walks around the lake. Well, we walked and Renee screamed and demanded someone carry her after she crossed the first bridge.


Renee was obsessed with throwing rocks in the water all weekend, an obsession I take the blame for since I showed her how to throw rocks in a puddle. We also took the babies "swimming" in the hot tub, dried off in front of the fireplace and drank beers.

On Easter the babies looked for their Easter baskets and then were sent on a hunt for eggs. Ben was faster than Renee, so Leiah kept having to sneak eggs out of his basket and drop them on the side of the road for Renee to find.

The entire weekend culminated in a pile of us on a hillside, watching the babies blow/lick bubbles, laughing at their new found addiction to jelly beans, and settling into gratitude for having so many people to love and laugh with.

Kentucky in the Springtime

A couple of weeks ago, I went to Keeneland with my mom, dad, Shan, Chaz and my aunt Mary and Uncle Bob. We bet on horses, drank beer, smoked cigars and enjoyed the sweet smell of fresh air. It was just one of those days that felt perfect and left a lingering happiness that'll probably last all season long.

Charles studies up on the horses.

Aunt Mary & Uncle Bob made the trek from St. Louis.
Shannon is as pretty as the weather.
Mom starts with the winning.
Daddy gets serious about it.
The cigars make it official.
Thanks again, Keeneland.

The Night Jen Became a Man-Eater

One week ago today, Jen and 7 of her gal pals hit the streets of Louisville for a fancy dinner and a night on the town. Because I am a brat, I told Jen via text message that I wasn't going to be one of those 8 gals, ruined her day, and then showed up out of the blue while she was getting her nails done.
April & Whitney, Jen's former roommates from UK, had booked us a couple rooms at the 21C Hotel in downtown Louisville and made dinner reservations for us at the swanky restaurant next door called Proof. Everyone who didn't have to pack clothes for the next 6 months in a single suitcase got all dressed up and beautiful, and Jen even debuted fake eyelashes for the occasion.

Then out came the champagne. The pasties. And the crotchless underwear.
At 7:30, we headed into what would be named "The Gone with the Wind dinner" by Christina, one of Jen's sorority sisters who has incredible eyes and a reliable stash of Chex Mix. Three hours of nibbling and waiting and being a little ignored later, we stepped out into the street and let the wind quite literally push us to 4th Street Live and the Maker's Mark Bar.

Here's where things turn kooky.

Now, I've only been to a couple bachelorette parties. At Heather's, we all dressed up like cowgirls and went to a honky tonk bar and rode the bull and drank beer with penis straws and hired a gross man stripper and did the two-step with ugly guys. At Megan's, Liz and I sat at the bar at Marikka's while Megan enlightened us on the value of balancing your checkbook. Even with my limited experience though, I know that the bachelorette party is supposed to push the bachelorette out of her comfort zone... if for no other reason than she'll be spending the rest of her life there once she's married.

So while everyone was classily sipping their Bourbon cocktails (except for a very brave and pregnant Tara), Kara, Jen's friend from UK and my friend from Spanish class, and I decided we needed to spice things up. We decided Jen needed to get 30 kisses on the cheek from 30 different guys before she could go home and call it a night.

The first guy I asked said he couldn't because his girlfriend was right there, but I asked her if it'd be okay, and she said sure. One down, 29 to go.

At one point Jen power grabbed every guy who passed us by and pushed his lips into her cheek. It was then Kara and I realized we probably should have attached a consent clause to the 30-Kiss Challenge.

While the man eating was fun and definitely shifted the evening from regular girls' night out into bachelorette party mode, the real good times started when Jen clamored up onto a bull in a honky tonk bar full of shame. Yes, she objected at first. Yes, she tried to negotiate. Yes, she whined. Yes, she refused. But when push came to shove, that bachelorette climbed her coiffed side braid self up on that mechanical beast and held on for dear life.
Seeing Jen on a bull. That was way better than watching her collapse under the weight and sloppiness of a stumbly bachelor in the middle of the street who was one of her 30.

Thanks for being a good sport Jen (& Mike). Hope you had a good time. And the best part, you never have to do it again!

Family Ties

I've been sleeping late and watching HBO and eating delicious dinners and going to Walgreens as my primary leisure activity since our move ended last week. That move was awful, and when I say awful, I mean I cried 6 times in two days and if it weren't for those tears, I wouldn't have made it through.

At one point, while looking at an impossibly heavy and awkward piano and wishing my husband preferred the flute, Mack looked at me and said, "Go on, babe, cry it out." And that is when I experienced a cry-laugh for the first time in my life.

Looking back on it, I can hardly believe we made it through it all. I can't believe we got everything packed up, that we made the first storage unit work at all, that we made the couch fit in the second storage unit without taking out that fluorescent light, that when I broke out with a fever after moving for two days I didn't just go on and die. I can't believe we got on our flight and came back to Kentucky and I was able to collapse into people I love and needed more than ever.

In the midst of that move, if you had told me that in a week I'd be at the zoo with my best friend, her two boys, my brother-in-law and my delicious niece looking at baby elephants and watching monkeys swing around, I couldn't have imagined it. But that's what happened. One week since I left Venice, since I cleaned out my apartment and kissed my neighbors goodbye, I spent the day enjoying the sunshine and laying on my mom and dad's deck while Renee played in a bowl of water for an uninterrupted hour. Bliss sort of describes it.

Lucky Duck

I'm in Vegas right now with Mack, Kristin, Will, Sarah and Shannon... a hodgepodge of unemployed, graduates, students, managers and doctors of geography. Shannon and Sarah have presentations to do and since Kristin has something called "work" to go to, we've been trying to find minutes to cram in with all of them.

Last night Kristin made corn on the cob and homemade, to-die-for black bean burgers, and then Mack and I jetted out to get Shan from the airport. We dropped off her things at her hotel and decided to go to Circus Circus. This is Shan's first time in Vegas, so, of course, she needed to gamble a little bit.

She decided to play the slot machines while we waited for Mack in the bathroom, and poof! out rolled $2.50 on her first try. Not a lot, but enough of a percentage earnings to spark excitement.

Then we went to the craps table, and poof! there went our money to the lords of the casino. Mack went to get some cash out of the ATM while Shan and I settled in at a $5 blackjack table. Then she proceeded to double her winnings while I proceeded to lose all of my money thanks to cards with fours on them.

Mack told us it was time to go after we finished our beer, and Shannon was all like, "You guys go on. I'm gonna keep playing. I'll be fine."

All I can say is thank goodness hers is the only hotel on the strip without a casino in it. Because with her luck and bank roll strategy, she may just give up on geography and settle into doubling down for a living.

Represent.

Dear Venice,

I just took another stroll through your peculiar little streets and wanted to let you know how much I love you.

I once took one of those Jeep tours through Sedona with Kate, and the lady driving was from Michigan. When we asked her how she ended up doing Jeep tours in Arizona, she said that when she visited she felt like that piece of Earth was made for her. That's sort of how you feel to me.

Now that my days here are numbered, I'm realizing just how much I'm going to miss about you. I'm going to miss your hidden walk streets and their decorative doors. I'm going to miss watching the ducks and the little crabs in the Canals. I'm going to miss the beefy pit bulls and Leo the Flying Lion Pomeranian who struts around like he's somebody. I'm going to miss the chance alley encounters with the sweet smell of crack. I'm going to miss seeing Gandolf the White, an alleged former gynecologist, walking around with his staff and patriotic paraphernalia. I'm going to miss the old guy who's been learning to skate board in the middle of California and Electric ever since I moved in. I'm going to miss Abbot's Habit, the Townhouse, La Cabana, and Mao's Kitchen. I'm going to miss stealing nectarines in July from the house with the Ohio flag. I'm going to miss riding my bike through the middle of your main drag. I'm going to miss the girl who paints giant green creatures on the sidewalk. I'm going to miss your gentle homeless people. I'm going to miss finishing off my beer during a walk down the alley. I'm going to miss the Lantern house and the Gingerbread house and the Kitchy house and even our little ghetto house.
I'm going to miss your year-round flowers and the sweet smells that blanket your tall fences. I'm going to miss seeing your boardwalk come to life and watching it go back to sleep. I'm going to miss hearing the drums on Sunday nights drifting 7 blocks from the beach to keep time on my front stoop. I'm going to miss the understated letters that adorn your gateway. I'm going to miss the guys who makes a circle of popcorn for the birds and then does some sort of worship from the center of the ring. I'm going to miss the way you turn a predictable walk to the beach into a Hare Krishna festival with enormous floats and flower adorned pathways and free food for everyone. I'm going to miss your skateboarders and your rollerbladers and your Smart cars. I'm going to miss the posting of the Declaration of Independence hanging on the fences on the 4th of July. I'm going to miss the strange posters and stickers that show the extent of the quick wit and sharp sense of humor of your residents. I'm going to miss seeing if Nice Cream pushes Pinkberry out of our neighborhood.

Basically, I'm going to miss your weird little vibes and your weird little people. You are the best place I've ever called home.

Secret [Sexy] Service

Thursday I got laid off, Friday our apartment was listed for rent, and yesterday Mack had an interview at UC San Diego. So all that extra time for blogging, yeah, it goes away when you've got to rent your place, pack up your belongings, sucker loved ones into putting you up indefinitely and cheerlead someone through the agony of the med school application process.

It also doesn't help when you're left slack-jawed and drooling over the hotness of your husband in a suit and trying to snap out of boy-watching freakishness usually reserved for adolescents.


He really is the hottest guy in the gay bar. No question.

We are screwed.

For more thought provoking, listen to TED.

Trouble Makers Have More Fun

You know you're entirely too close to someone when they're farts are familiar to you. That's the way it is with Heather. I have been smelling this girl's colon for my entire life. And even though I know she comes with squirty toots that you can taste if you're in an enclosed space, I still would have her visit every single day if I could.

[In a complete coincidence, Mack just farted as I wrote this and then broke out with, "I'm bringing Heather back..." to the tune of Sexy Back. He gets it.]

That girl makes me laugh til I drool every time. She is a trouble magnet, and potentially regrettable things happen when she's around... not bad things, just potentially oopsie ones. Like this:
The first night she got here, we went out with my friend Gio, who shares my birthday and my delight in taking innocent yet incriminating photos that would be completely inappropriate without the forgiveness of Pabst Blue Ribbon. He was so much fun he drunk texted my mom, tinged Heather and my Facebook statuses/stati with naughtiness, and got to hold our purses the 11 times we peed in the alley.
He also got to take the above reference innocent yet incriminating photos.
On Saturday we woke up, went to breakfast at my favorite diner, and then headed to Abalone Cove to see if the tide pools my neighbor told me about actually existed. When Jen visited last year, we hiked around looking for these stinking tide pools and could not find them anywhere. Jen was in a sundress and heeled flipflops and was either going to cry or kill me if I did not get her out of that failed outing immediately. Well, this time, with accurate tide charts in hand, we made it. And it was freaking awesome!
We saw orange starfish, maroon starfish, baby starfish, teenage starfish, adult starfish, sea vaginas, hermit crabs, bright purple sea urchins and tons of birds. Enjoy this slideshow music compilation courtesy of $3 and Animoto.com, which I also love.



We also discovered squirters. Some of you may know squirters as something else, but all we knew was that as we were walking around the tide pools trying not to step on sea urchins, some things would periodically squirt water at us. We channeled our inner scientists and named them after one of Mark Carrothers' old girlfriends. Would you be surprised that it was Heather's idea? Naaah.

Sunday was basically as perfectly lazy as it should have been. We walked up to Venice Beach, laid in the grass, read books, took photos of Sadie playing outside, took medicine for our aching calves, went to sushi for dinner, and vegged like the champion vacationers we are.

She left on Monday morning, and even with daylight savings time, it's been a little less sunny without Heather's spontaneity and easy laugh. She is good for the soul. And the devil inside.

Meeting Minutes

11:17 Boss suggests we take a walk to get a muffin.
11:18 Boss and I talk about how cute his kid is.
11:23 Boss orders a banana nut muffin.
11:24 Boss and I sit at bistro table outside of cafe next to a vibrant window box.
11:25 I drop the "I thought about it and..." bomb. With the words comes a huge internal sigh of relief. Feel very grateful for the supportive conversations with mom and mother-in-law this weekend. Boss shakes his head knowingly, surprises me with how easy he's making this, wins my favor and sincere appreciation.
11:36 I say thank you. Boss says thank you. We get up.
11:37 Walk back to the office feeling 100 pounds lighter and realize I STILL don't have a firm answer or absolute resolution.
11:41 Weight settles back onto my shoulders. Dammit Joan...

Okay, Teen Years, end already.

I break out every month when I'm about to get my period, and looking at the mirror this morning I realized that only ONE WEEK PER MONTH am I my normal self. The other weeks, I am, in order:

• bloated with retarded size boobs
• bitchy with pimples and a need to clean and eat ice cream
  
• having cramps and experiencing the joy of menstruation

Mack especially loves this phase I'm in right now because it means he'll be called an asshole for enjoying himself. Asshole.

Tweetle Lee Dee Doo

I like Twitter. And not necessarily the product as much as the branding.

The product is a little like Facebook status updates but through a different site so there's nothing too unique about it besides the fact that I can follow people without their mandatory approval.

But what's really fun about Twitter is the cuteness of it all. I like the colors and the logo font and the little birds they use (I normally don't like birds because I don't trust their hollow bones, so me liking their birds means they are doing birds well).

Even when the site craps out, I still like Twitter. Because even in crappy times, Twitter is still cute. Which is more than I can say for me.

I dunno... just cool stuff

I've had a few "extra" minutes at work to spend perusing the internet and here are some things I've found that I like.

I Found Your Camera

This satisfies the voyeur in me but is also a great public service. How many times have I left my camera in a cab or at a party only to lose all evidence that the hangover I'm feeling is from me having a memorable time and not from me being stupid? Okay, never, because my camera is more important than my wallet (certainly more valuable). But for the rest of you, now when you lose your camera, there is hope that you'll get it back. And if you're like me and don't or haven't lost your camera, you get to snoop on the private lives of strangers in the name of "helping them." Win, win.

List of the Day

There are no rules for this blog other than to make a list of something each day. On some days, it's The 10 Most Special "Very Special" TV Episodes Of The Day, and on other days, it's an Engrish Roundup, but every day it's funny and makes me jealous because, dammit, my lists are never this good.

Book Inscriptions

I love a book inscription. I think I got this from my mom, who always signs the books she gives me with words that put the actual book to shame, and now whenever I get a book for someone, I try to write on the inside of it. And if someone gives me a book, I usually insist they write a message on it. I also like to use photos or receipts or other little life trinkets as bookmarks while I'm reading them and then store them in books when I'm done. Liz does that too, because when she lent me Love in the Time of Cholera, I used her enclosed bookmark. Just another little personal touch and something to send the imagination over a cliff.

Unnecessary Quotes

Look. I studied journalism in college. I work as an editor. I used to get excited in the 7th grade about diagramming sentences. I watch Cops because I like feeling superior to idiots. Unnecessary Quotes feeds that part of me, alright!

Please Enjoy

A couple years ago a guy I work with stumbled across this site, and when he sent me the link, I read it as Plea Seen Joy. Not only do I stop by this guy's site periodically to get design or branding inspiration, but I also check in to see what incredible DIY social commentary project he's crafted. Be sure to check out the projects if you're feeling like you want to give your vandalism a clever purpose.

JR ART

Surprise! I like photography! I first started following whoever this JR is when he was doing a project called Face 2 Face. He took photos of Israelis in certain occupations (bakers, lawyers, tailors, etc) and then took photos of Palestinians in those same occupations, and then he hung larger than life versions of the photos of the Israelis version and the Palestinian version next to each other in both countries. The goal was to get these people to go, "Hey, they're not that different from me." Since then he's gone all over the world, capturing humanity and putting our similarities front and center, simultaneously showcasing beauty and disgust at the same time and making us ask how can we do this to each other? (Be sure to click on the English version in the top left, unless you just want to let the photos speak for themselves. and be sure to click on Projets to see his body of work so far.) I subscribe to him so now I get email updates and photos, and I'm never disappointed.

The Belly Project

I'm still sussing out how I feel about this one. I like the concept -- women of different ages and life experiences showing the reality of these bodies we inhabit -- but I have to be in the right mood for it. Like the one that comes on days when the Victoria's Secret catalogues show up and I start having a fit of self-loathing. On days like that, this is a handy little collective of gals being real.

F My Life

Props to Amy for turning me on to this one. I'm not sure how many of these are real and how many are made up, but all of them are entertaining and make me feel grateful that this crap hasn't happened to me. So far.

A Little Thing I Like to Call Lunch Break

California kicks winter's ass.

And you thought OctoMom was a freak show... have you watched TLC lately?

Last night I was flipping between Intervention on A&E and Little People, Big World on TLC. Little people sometimes make me nauseous -- I KNOW I AM A TERRIBLE PERSON -- but those Roloffs are a sweet family and if I'm feeling like the world is crap, watching them puts me in a much better mood. Plus, the camera people have some good tricks up their sleeves to make them seem less dwarfish -- I KNOW, ME = TERRIBLE.

During one particular commercial break - on both channels - I caught a promo for the show Table for 12. This is not a restaurant show. This is a show about a family of 12. Which normally wouldn't be so bad, but it's on the same network as the shows Jon & Kate Plus 8 and 18 and Counting (yes, and counting...).

I watch Jon & Kate Plus 8 sometimes, but sometimes I just can't. It makes me want to kick babies and smack some sense into hyper breeders -- I FULLY ADMIT I AM A TERRIBLE PERSON. I know babies are a gift from god, a miracle, the purpose of humanity, but I also know that, seriously, this planet will (and is) kill(ing) babies if it gets too many of them. Imagine how many people could be saved from malaria if Jon & Kate had stuck with 2 babies, one to replace each of them...

That being said, Jon and Kate -- mostly due to Kate's efforts -- do an inspiring job loving and taking care of their brood. And if they can do it with 6 babies, the rest of the world can do it with 2-4. I see how the show is comforting to overwhelmed and exhausted parents, many of whom appreciate that how HARD it is to raise kids is conveyed so well, and that they get a lot of perspective and, in some cases, good advice from Jon and Kate on parenting and marriage. Plus, Jon and Kate only had two pregnancies, so I don't think they were being freaky as much as they got lucky with their IVF. Like I said, sometimes I like the show too.

But I'm afraid it's started an epidemic.

Not too many seasons after Jon & Kate came to TLC, the Duggars also moved in. You know the Duggars. They're the one who look Amish, but are actually an evangelical Christian religion called Quiverful. I shudder to think...


Anyway, the Duggars got their own show, 17 & Counting, which then became 18 & Counting and a book deal called 20 & Counting. Twenty. Freaking. People. That's a classroom of family. Two baseball teams.

I should say that if the Duggars want to have 100 kids and they're bodies and wallets can support them, more power to them, but I don't feel that way. Because they are freaks, completely self absorbed with their own agenda (one they get away with because they tacked it onto god), and their multiplying affects me... financially, environmentally, socially.

Seriously, if breeding like a bunny couldn't make you famous... couldn't get you a television series that would let you afford all those rug rats... would OctoMom have been so tempted? Don't think TLC isn't developing a show for her right now, one that will air once all the judgy single momness subsides. I can just hear the brainstorms now:

• "14 vs. 1" -- Nooo, sounds too combative.
• "Extreme Single Mom" -- Maybe, it uses the right buzz words. Maybe we could roll out a line of Extreme kid foods to go along with it.
• "Must Really Love Kids" -- You think she's ready to date? Because this would be PERFECT!

If someone wants to have IVF to get their babies and they end up with 8 in one fail swoop, whoops! But if someone already has 6-18 kids from multiple pregnancies -- and by multiple I mean 15 in the case of the Duggars -- they just need to stop already. And TLC needs to stop making them out to be some sort of parenting heroes. Because that, well, that makes me more nauseous than little people ever could.

Goodness Gracious

A year and a half ago, I put "learn poi" on my Google To Do List. And then I stared at it until this past January when I finally got sick of looking at it and signed up for a poi class.

Poi is basically spinning wads attached to strings around your body. Sometimes those wads are just bags of beans, sometimes they're glowing eggs, and sometimes they're balls of fire.

Last night was a ball of fire night.



I especially like the commentary by Victor, a long-haired Harley biker dude who taught me that you're only supposed to sport a braid after you've had sex with someone. He sounds almost girlish in his fire watching delight.